Edgar Cayce Readings, 939-1

(Enquiring minds. They wish to receive mental, physical and spiritual guidance as to their desires for matrimonial happiness and successful lives, and earnestly request answers to the questions which they have submitted, as I ask them.)

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EC: Yes, we have the enquiring minds [...] and [939]; their desires, their hopes and their aspirations. These, as we find, are well.
If there will be kept within the intent and purpose of each AS is the desire toward each in the present, well! For their minds, their bodies, their desires, are in the present in accord.
Even though there would arise in their experience that which would be of the nature as to cause turmoils, dissensions, even strife, if their hearts and minds are kept - EVER - in that of being a helpmate one for the other, such would become then rather as stepping-stones for greater opportunities, greater privileges.
Should they either become self-centered, or allow selfish motives to make for demands one upon the other; or become at such times so self-centered as to desire the gratifying of self's desires irrespective of what the satisfying of same might bring into the experience of the other, then these would become as those things that would divide the purpose. And a house divided against itself WILL NOT stand.
Ready for questions.
(Q) Will the mental, physical and spiritual interests of [...] and [939] be best served by their marriage to each other?
(A) If their purposes, aims, desires are kept as held in the present, as we have indicated, these would best be suited one for the other.
(Q) Are they prepared mentally, physically and spiritually for marriage to each other?
(A) Prepared.
(Q) Do they genuinely love each other?
(A) In the present. Remember each, love is giving; it is a growth. It may be cultivated or it may be seared. That of selflessness on the part of each is necessary. Remember, the union of body, mind and spirit in such as marriage should ever be not for the desire of self but as ONE. Love grows; love endures; love forgiveth; love understands; love keeps those things rather as opportunities that to others would become hardships.
Then, do not sit STILL and expect the other to do all the giving, nor all the forgiving; but make it rather as the unison and the purpose of each to be that which is a COMPLEMENT one to the other, ever.
(Q) If they marry, will they be happy and compatible?
(A) This, to be sure, is a state that is MADE so; not a thing that exists. For Life is living, and its changes that come must be met by each under such circumstances and conditions as to MAKE the union, the associations, the activities, such as to be more and more worth while. Let each EVER be dependent upon the other, yet so conducting self that the other may ever depend upon self. Thus will they find the associations, the mental forces, the spiritual activities that will bring peace and contentment in such a union.
(Q) If they marry, what course of conduct should each adopt toward the other to achieve greatest happiness and compatibility?
(A) As has been indicated. One for the other, ever; more and more selfless when it comes to associations. This does not mean EITHER GIVING UP; but they each should express themselves as a complement to the best that is in each.
(Q) If married, what activities and pursuits would they enjoy most in common?
(A) Those that make for the preparing of themselves for being the complement one to the other.
To be sure, in [939] it is necessary - with the associations in the legal phase of the experiences - of the entity and its development - that the service to others ever be a helpful, hopefulness. But they should each budget their time for their daily expressions, their daily needs, their social activities, their developments in the mental, in the material, in the spiritual welfare.
THESE are the manners, the interests. As this: "What will prepare my mind the most to be on an equal footing with my husband, that the interests may be as one? so that when there are those things necessary for the more perfect understanding I would be able to meet him on his own ground!"
The same with the husband should be; not different worlds through their associations, socially, morally or materially, but EVER as a oneness of service, in a CONSTRUCTIVE manner ever.
(Q) If they marry, will there be issue; and if so, how many boys and girls?
(A) This would depend, to be sure, upon their activity in these relationships. This should be kept inviolate. But let rather this be answered from the Giver of those opportunities, those privileges that are in the experience of father and mother. For those that may be lent them are of the Lord. Let such associations, let such desires be, "Not my will but Thine, O Lord, be done IN and through me."
Two, as we find in the present; girl, a boy - in that order.
(Q) What knowledge of [...] and her personality does [939] require to aid him in understanding her?
(A) Study rather not the whims or fancies that may be gratified, but that which would bring out the best in each. As [939] would for [...], as [...] would for [939]. Study each other; not to become critical, but as to become more a more the complement one for the other.
(Q) What knowledge of [939] and his personality does [...] require to aid her in understanding him?
(A) The same. In the associations let them, as it were, each have their own jobs; yet ALL in common. Leave the office in the office, when in the home. Leave the petty things of the home in the home, when abroad. But have all things in common.
(Q) Is [939] economically prepared to marry?
(A) Prepared, to MEET the conditions, provided they each take upon themselves their jobs to MEET conditions and circumstances as they arise.
(Q) If he marries [...], will he attain economic security for his family, and how soon?
(A) As we find, applied in the manner as is felt within self, he would within the next two years.
(Q) Will the Ross negotiations in which he is financially interested culminate successfully, and if so what will he receive and when?
(A) We do not find them associated in this particular undertaking, but the Ross interests will culminate - FINANCIALLY - SUCCESSFULLY; not as MUCH for [939] as is hoped at times, but sufficient to meet the needs and conditions.
(Q) When can he expect financial returns on the western matter, and what will his portion be?
(A) Latter part of the present year, and then again in the next eighteen months - as we find; and the portion would be in the three to four figures.
(Q) How long will his present association with Isaac Lande at 70 Pine St., continue?
(A) Fourteen months - twenty-nine days -
(Q) Should I change my association?
(A) Not until after that time.
(Q) When would be best time for proposal and marriage, considering all conditions?
(A) In October of present year.
(Q) For the marriage or proposal?
(A) Proposal is already understood.
(Q) What general advice may [939] and [...] have to aid them in obtaining mental, physical and spiritual fulfillment?
(A) Study, as one, to show selves approved unto the God within, without; keeping self unspotted from contention, from strife; making for that as is the greater help in each; PRESENTING self - in self's OWN mind - unquestioning the other.
We are through for the present.
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BACKGROUND

6/10/35 Mr. [257]'s letter: "[939] has heard so much of you - met you at my home, you remember. Well, he is very anxious to know about his ability to get married and make a living and keep the right girl happy. He has not proposed yet, and wants to before his girl goes away in two weeks. He wants to be sure that he can make her happy and be worthy of her... He can afford at this time to pay $10..."
6/19/39 Mr. [939] submitted questions.

REPORTS

11/22/36 Mr. [939] and his wife were present for Mr. [257]'s reading 257-174.